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international-woman-of-mystery: This needs to be circulated...

Tue, 21 May 2013 21:12:35 -0500

This needs to be circulated again. Because that fucking lip bite. I can’t even.

"25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25 1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize..."

Tue, 21 May 2013 18:24:31 -0500

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25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25

1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.

2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.

3. Minimize your passivity.

4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.

5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.

6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.

7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.

8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.

9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.

10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.

11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.

12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.

13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.

14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.

15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.

16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.

17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.

18. Stop hating yourself.

19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.

20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.

21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.

22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.

23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.

24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.

25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.

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January Nelson, 06/25/12 (via pale-afternoon)

I’ve done 20-something out of this list! Wow =]

(via heroinsanity)

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drawbrandondraw: Here is the background from my Pizza Party...

Mon, 20 May 2013 21:12:23 -0500

drawbrandondraw:

Here is the background from my Pizza Party mini, now available for tiling on your desktop

nakedfabray: baelfire and beth should meet and discuss their dysfunctional family trees.

Mon, 20 May 2013 18:24:17 -0500

nakedfabray:

baelfire and beth should meet and discuss their dysfunctional family trees.

All caught up on Grey’s. Very little creys.

Mon, 20 May 2013 17:36:54 -0500

All caught up on Grey’s.
Very little creys.

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Mon, 20 May 2013 15:36:18 -0500

connotativewords: March 19, 2013 and even if I fail, it was...

Mon, 20 May 2013 12:48:09 -0500

connotativewords:

March 19, 2013

and even if I fail, it was worth a shot

Plot Twist: Stark Industries buys Tumblr. We all get free issue laptops with fantastic WiFi.

Mon, 20 May 2013 11:52:56 -0500

Plot Twist: Stark Industries buys Tumblr. We all get free issue laptops with fantastic WiFi.

"If I’m going to be a partner in a law firm by the time I’m 30, I need a boyfriend who’s not such a..."

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:18:26 -0500

“If I’m going to be a partner in a law firm by the time I’m 30, I need a boyfriend who’s not such a complete bonehead.”

- Sylvia Plath (via incorrectsylviaplathquotes)

wartortles: if u are ever having trouble on a test, just write “jesus” for the answer bc jesus is...

Sun, 19 May 2013 21:12:32 -0500

wartortles:

if u are ever having trouble on a test, just write “jesus” for the answer bc jesus is always the answer. god bless

norsegays: astrolope: People being angry about ~dem gays~ on...

Sun, 19 May 2013 18:24:29 -0500

norsegays:

astrolope:

People being angry about ~dem gays~ on Target’s Facebook.

I just want to give my two cents on this and tell you a story.

A couple weeks ago, I was hired at Target. I have a job at Target. Not a big deal right?

It is a big deal because i’m a transman.

It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that it’s hard for me, my brothers, and sisters to get a job. There are legal restraints regarding the job and if you don’t pass, it’s hard to be taken seriously at a job interview.

Right on the application, it asks what your preferred name is. It also asks if there is anything that target should know. I put the fact that I am a transman, expecting not to get a call because usually when you put that down, people will throw out the application. I got TWO interviews.

At the interview, they asked me about it. I told them I am on hormones and they told me that they didn’t care. Not in the sense that they don’t emotionally care, but that it didn’t matter. I was male and that’s all that mattered. They also told me that they give sex same couples benefits in states that do not recognize them as a married couple.

At my job orientation, I was not misgendered once. Even my supervisors who weren’t sure of my gender avoided pronoun use, which I found only happens when you’ve had pronoun training. They gave me a name tag with my preferred name and didn’t ask questions. I felt safe and respected, which is huge for a trans* person.

TLDR: Target is amazing not just for the LGB, but also the T. Shop there for the rest of your life.

So my professor was asking questions.

Sun, 19 May 2013 15:36:31 -0500

Professor: Who plans on getting married within the next 5-10 years?
Like 3 people: *raises hand*
Professor: Who plans on never getting married?
Me: *raises hand*
Professor: *points me out* why?
Me: It's illegal.
Professor: touche.

Question of the Day

Sun, 19 May 2013 13:51:54 -0500

How the hell am I supposed to move my stuff across the country?

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Sun, 19 May 2013 12:48:26 -0500

My parents got me this really awesome convection oven for my graduation gift. As silly as it...

Sun, 19 May 2013 03:29:57 -0500

My parents got me this really awesome convection oven for my graduation gift.

As silly as it seems, it made everything very, very real. Much more so than the four hour ordeal that was graduation this morning.

Now there’s nothing left but to plan for August and to cherish the time I have left with my family and friends all within driving distance.

Shonda Rhimes on TV’s Lack of Diversity: ‘I Think It’s Sad and Weird’ - COLORLINES

Sat, 18 May 2013 21:12:36 -0500

Shonda Rhimes on TV’s Lack of Diversity: ‘I Think It’s Sad and Weird’ - COLORLINES:

sinidentidades:

Everybody’s favorite ABC drama, “Scandal”, is the subject of a must-read piece in the New York Times. In it, the show’s creator, Shonda Rhimes, talks about how she deals with being one of the most powerful writers in television. “What was great for me about ‘Scandal’ was I had earned a lot of political capital with the network,” Rhimes told me Willa Paskin at the Times. “I had done ‘Grey’s,’ I had done ‘Private Practice.’ What were they going to do, fire me? I wasn’t worried about what anybody else thought. This one was for me.”

But, importantly, Rhimes also discusses the fact that she, a black woman, casts some of the most racially diverse shows on television. Racial diversity isn’t usually television’s strong suit.

From the Times:

Rhimes refuses to make an issue of her casting. “I think it’s sad, and weird, and strange that it’s still a thing,” she told me over the phone a few months ago. “It’s 2013. Somebody else needs to get their act together. And, oh, by the way, it works. Ratings-wise, it works.” In addition to its general success, “Scandal” is also rated No. 1 on network TV among African-American viewers.

While race on Rhimes’s shows is omnipresent, it is not often discussed explicitly. This has led to a second-order critique of her shows: that they are colorblind, diverse in a superficial way, with the characters’ races rarely informing their choices or conversations. Rhimes, obviously, disagrees. “When people who aren’t of color create a show and they have one character of color on their show, that character spends all their time talking about the world as ‘I’m a black man blah, blah, blah,’ ” she says. “That’s not how the world works. I’m a black woman every day, and I’m not confused about that. I’m not worried about that. I don’t need to have a discussion with you about how I feel as a black woman, because I don’t feel disempowered as a black woman.”

In November, TVEquals.com released an infographic that showed just how white the Fall 2012 TV line up was. It wasn’t pretty.

fraternallyidaho: I think they would know me by name within...

Sat, 18 May 2013 18:24:23 -0500

fraternallyidaho:

I think they would know me by name within two days at the theater if this happened.

kitsunecoffee: bradshawanderson: #these dumb videos were as...

Sat, 18 May 2013 15:36:23 -0500

kitsunecoffee:

bradshawanderson:

#these dumb videos were as much of my childhood as the real harry potter was

Casual reminder that the cast of the films wanted to do live action reenactments of most of these shorts